If you file bankruptcy

if you file bankruptcy, they will take the money you have saved, even if it was done before you were married, it’s become marital assets now. You need to decide what you want to do, contact a bankruptcy attorney and speak to several debt counselors, tread very carefully. In most states the money you bring to a marriage – furniture, car etc. is yours. Then the money you save together, cars etc. is marital property. But the savings will have to be considered if you file for sure – and I don’t know your state law.

And that all depends on what type of fund the money is in. Example: Your 401K is exempt in Bankruptcy.

To protect that money, can you put it into a college fund in the children name? Or possibly a retirement account? I could be mistaken, but since there is a penalty to withdrawl money from my IRA, I believe it is safe even if we file bankruptcy. It would tie the money up from you also, but by all means it’s better than the creditors getting it.

I just wanted to offer you encouragement

I just wanted to offer you encouragement. In April 14 my husband at 46 yrs had such a severe stroke that he is totally disabled. We were constantly arguing over $ 35K in debt that we had even done a debt settlement program. What a nightmare- they charged like 1k to enter the program and 40 per mo “maintenance fees”. Thus pulling out 600 per mo out of our checking acct and bill collectors calling nonstop. Not a real good witness for 5 kids to be watching.I was a SAHM and when the stroke happened I got more surprises- like dh had ‘forgotten’ to pay the mortgage, etc, etc. Yes, one of the cc cos tried to sue.

This all forced me at 50 plus to finally grow up. The ball was squarely in my court and I had to get dh to countless md, pt appts as well as care for 5 school age kids. I hadnt worked in 18 years!!! I found this website that you are reading and was so glad I wasnt alone in this debt nightmare.

I heard the name Dave Ramsey over and over and went to see him in the Cleveland Ohio area and then joined the financial peace university.

Long story short- in less than 2 years we are completely debt free and have 40k in the bank. I can truthfully say it was only God Himself that did this. Our marriage is the BEST it has ever been- when there are no financial worries the fights go down to nothing! I am nobody special-It can happen for you too!

My most recent thoughts on the matter….maybe bankruptcy is best??

Hello….

I’ve been thinking about this issue almost non-stop these past few days. I’ve also shared the situation with a social worker who handles some things for our son who is autistic. She provided us with a name and number for a man who does debt negotiations. I told my husband (after speaking with this man) that I would like for us to meet with him and see what he will say about what he can do for our situation. I will pay his fee ($300.). It’s a small price to pay if we can arrive at a conclusion that will not be damaging to our sons or the family as a whole.

But….I have also been thinking that bankruptcy might be the best option. After all, buying a house is not an option now….and, given my husbands habits with money, probably wasn’t ever likely.

Where can I find reliable information on bankruptcy options in New York State???

So, why should I write a check for 16K just because my husband asks for it? I’m not an ATM, after all, and those monies were earned, saved, and invested well before we were married and were earmarked for retirement/house/education of the children. I was not working 10-11 hour days with the specific purpose of bailing my husband out of debt, when, with careful and prudent planning, he might have avoided this situation.

I sense that he wants me to pay the money to make it “all better” for him…..without anyone having to know what sort of a situation we are in.

I figured, after I gave him the 40K to pay off his credit debt in 2001 he would have learned his lesson and taken a different path.

My efforts to sit down with him, work out a livable budget, were all rejected. My efforts to find out what was going on financially were rebuffed. I have to poke around in his dresser drawers to find out what is going on. I asked him for the name/number of the debt counselor he spoke with at MMI….he still hasn’t given it to me himself….I had to locate it myself and I’ve emailed and left messages for him but I have not yet spoken with him directly (we seem to be playing telephone tag).

Now I am presented with this disaster and I’m expected to clean it up, along with all the other messes here.

Just out of curiosity, I figured out that the $40.00 a week he gives me as an allowance works out to $5.71 a day or .23 cents per hour for a 24 hour day (since I can be called on at any time).

Thanks again for all your support/feedback/advice and especially to those of you who have emailed me privately.

Not able to call at work

Where can I find the exact wording of the federal law stating that creditors may not contact you at your place of business and if there are any repercussions against them for continually doing so.

Fair Debt Collection Act – here or here.

This also goes by the name of “ceast and desist”, or a C&D. Might do a search on that if you have trouble.

Another Old Medical Debt – Any Advise Appreciated

Looks like I’m not the only one with this kind of problem.

I could use some advise regarding old medical debt. I was hospitalized for two days in December 2011. It was an emergency situation. I was employed but had no medical insurance. I went to the General Hospital, but as I was not indigent I did not qualify for assistance. I ended up owing thousands of dollars to the hospital and doctors and miscellaneous medical people. I made payments, small, but faithfully and eventually got the doctors and pathologists and labs and everyone paid off but the hospital. It wasn’t easy, as I still had health problems and was physically weak for a long time afterward. Then the county run hospital was shut down and they sent everybody’s bills to collection.

So a local collection agency contacted me by mail and I sent them a letter saying it was pointless for me to pay, since what I could afford to send them would not even cover their interest. The hospital had not charged interest at all. I did send the collection agency payments though, which covered a little bit more than the interest. I did this so my credit would not be ruined. I had been paying them for quite a few months and then one month I had more health problems and frankly was too sick to think about paying the bills or talking to anybody. I was weak. The very next month they sold my account to another collection agency out of town.

I was upset because, first, it wasn’t my fault I was sick, had no insurance from my employer and was not paid enough to buy it on my own, or that the hospital sent it to collection in the first place. I was upset that they didn’t contact me before switching agencies. I knew this meant that they’d already hurt my credit. I did not pay the second collection agency. I did not communicate with them at all. They sent my account back to the original collection agency which continues to send me bills. I haven’t made a payment to them nor communicated with them since November 2013.

It’s funny, the hospital did not sell them all of my debt and I can’t even reach the accounting office of the old hospital anymore to find out what remains. My current debt with the collection agency as they state it is a principle amount of $1265.50, $547.82 in interest and a total due of $1813.32.

How do I go about settling with a collection agency? I would like to settle for the principle when I am able to. I still don’t want to pay their **** interest. I live in California. How much time do you think I have until they would possibly try to take me to court over this, if at all? Does anybody have any knowledge about this kind of situation?

Thank you!!

Financial Coach???

Does anyone have any information on Financial “Coaches”? Looking for one in the Atlanta Area. I saw a show where a “coach” assessed a person’s spending habits and helped out with budgeting. All I have been able to run across are financial planners whose services are more geared toward investing, and less toward budgeting. Any leads would be greatly appreciated.

Check out: http://www.daveramsey.com/ – Then on the right under “Financial Counseling”.

I have never been to a Debtors Anonymous meeting, and I doubt there are any “coaches” there, but there are probably long term members who can tell inspirational stories about how they got out of debt and stayed out of debt. You can find out more, and if there are meetings in your area by going to their website. I don’t have the link but you can find it easily doing a search. Just type in Debtors Anonymous.